Intended Parent in Perth, Western Australia, Australia

I'm a Australian Caucasian. My family herritage has been in Australia since 1853. Prior to that my fathers side of the family is from Ireland and and my mothers side is from Scottland. I just consider myself Australian (an "Aussie" haha). My parents divorced when I was 7yo, my father stayed living in the metropolitan area of a large city of 4 million people, my mother moved 315km (195 miles) away to a rural farming area. My 2 bothers and I all lived with Mum and we got to visit Dad every 2nd weekend. I think I had a great upbringing because I got to experience a rural country upbringing in a small town and small community and still regularly experience the big city. In the country we were very outdoors kids, riding bikes, building tree houses. When I finished high school I relocated back to the city and lived with my Dad while I attended University. So I had a good mix Male & Female role models at different parts of my upbringing as well as the differences of reigons, spending majority of my time in the country, but getting to experience the city as a young adult. About 2 months after I finished my degree in Mechanical Engineering, when I was 22 years old, I relocated 3,200km (2,000 miles) over to the other side of the country for a high paying job in the Mining Industry and I have been completely financially independant every since. That was a very big adventure to a place I had never been (and not many Australians ever go to). I have always been a hard worker with jobs I worked while in high school and university, but when I was getting paid a very high salary in the mining industry as a young man it made me work even harder to feel that I deserved or earned it, or show my boss I'm worth it. This in turn lead to me being given more responsibilty and I quickly worked my way into leadership roles (which was interesting at the time because all I ever wanted to be was a really good Engineer and I had never even given a thought to being a 'Manager' or a 'Boss'). However I ended up really liking it and after doing technical calculations for so many years, being able to think on a broader scale, and connect with people in my leadership roles was AWESOME. So I ended up thriving in leadership roles and moved up into more senior leadership roles with more responsibility (and more money too). So then I was able to buy and fully own my own house as a single man when I was 35. I have 3 cars and 4 motorbikes. I continued working and I was still in the same habbit of saving 80% of my money and paying off the mortgage as quickly as a I could (growing up we didn't have much money so I was always good at saving), but as I'd paid the mortgage off, I put it all into savings. So am financially stable, own my house, car and possessions, I have no debt and a job with ability to earn a good income. But there was something missing in my life. I had been in and out of a few relationships, the mining industry can be had on relationships because I work 1,100km (685 miles) away from where I live (I fly on a plane to work and stay on site for 14 days). And at the time I always prioritised my career as more important then my relationship. I originally wanted to start a family with a sweetheart at about 28-30yo. Which sounds silly now but I just assumed it would 'happen'. But when I prioritised career and didn't put effort into a relationship how as that going to happen!!? So anyway now I am in a good relationship, we've been together 3 years. As mentioned above in the previous section is why I or we're looking for a surrogate. We've just found ourselves at this stage towards the end of our window, so we're exploring a few different options.

My partner (41yo woman) is worried that she could have complications with another pregnancy (she has 1 child (10yo boy) with another man already (failed relationship ~8-9 years ago)). She's also worried about the strain of another pregnancy. So hopefully looking for a healthy young woman, that I will compensate well if you choose to help :) We've been together for 3 years. I'm not 100% sure if we would use her eggs or the surrogate's eggs, that needs more discussion but for now I put that looking for both surrogate and surrogate eggs.

At this stage there are 2 options we are considering. I plan to be the father for either option. 1 - We use my partners eggs and the surrogate mother (possibly you) to carry the pregnancy for us. 2 - Possibly we use the surrogate mother eggs AND the surrogate mother to carry the pregnancy with my child (so really a biological child between myself and the surrogate (possibly you). In terms of the the upbringing of the child, I plan to minimise the use of ipads and iphones. I want the child to play with interactive toys and games that involve physical coordination. Ensure the child has a healthy diet. Hopefully I will have tought the child riding a bycicle at 3 years old, 4 years old. And involve them in sports. (I forgot but as a kid I was age champion in atheletics (to become age champion it involved points added up from every event, shot put, discus, 70m, 100m, 200m, 400m, 800m runnign events, long jump, high jump) it was something I was very proud of). So I will definetly involve the child in sports. However I will NOT be a parent that applies pressure for the child to perform, I'll be coaching and supportive and encouraging (I don't want them to just give up and quit); after being a leader in change or running large departments for 15+ years I know I'll have the coaching skills to find the right balance here. I do not care if the child is a boy or a girl, either way I'll raise the child the same and I would involve the girl in sports as equally as I would as a boy. If we go with option 2, I am open to having an introduction of the child to you as the biological mother. Well that's a overview. Let's connect and figure out if we're a good match, and figure out the details, what your financial compensation would look like, and take it from there :)

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