Surrogate Mother in Brisbane, Queensland, Australia

About this surrogate mother profile

I describe myself as introspective, cautious, compassionate, persistent, and insightful.

Surrogate Mother journey and preferences

I wish to help another person or couple by hosting their baby from conception to birth. Though these text boxes don't support paragraph formatting, I do encourage you to read this anyway.   Like you, I also knew the emptiness, the anguish of years without a child, and despondently I came to believe I would never become a mother.  For more than ten years, because of MALE factor infertility, incorrect diagnoses, and unaffordable treatment costs, we believed we would never have children. Nevertheless, on the FEMALE side of the equation, repeat ultrasound imagery of my uterus and endometrium correctly predicted that I would be an excellent candidate for IVF and subsequent successful gestation.  Time and again, year after year, baby conception seemed so easy for other couples.  I could see so many people who clearly didn't appreciate the gift of their children in their lives.  It also would have been relatively easy for so many others to have helped us in one way or another in our journey to parenthood.  It hurt deeply that others would be unwilling to do for us that which we would gladly have done for them.  Altruism is truly rare and precious. I'll never forget their indifference, but I carefully didn't allow it to brew resentment.  I just reminded myself that there are people out there whose fertility problems are worse than my own, and I redoubled my resolve that if there is ever anything I can do, yes, I will do what I can. In time our luck changed.  From our savings and from a moderate gift we managed to collect just enough money to gamble on a single IVF cycle. Many little embies were created in that cycle and nurtured in the clinic's incubators, and most survived for fresh transfers (I still refer to that part of the clinic as the emby ICU, where the embryologists care for them day and night).  There were many more blastocysts created than would be safe for me to try to carry. By prior arrangement with my doctor, each embryo which I could not accommodate myself was "adopted" immediately, and transferred fresh to other IVF patients. I did become pregnant from that sole cycle.  My gratitude is unending. I will look into my child's face and see the compassion of the Universe reflected in his eyes.  I will remember that somewhere he has brothers and sisters bringing equal measures of joy to their parents. Our baby will be born in April, 2013.   Sometime later in the year I wish to carry an IVF child for someone else, someone who needs a child in their life. Still I remember there are people whose infertility problems are worse than mine. They need gestational surrogates. I have a passport and I can travel. I am both American and Australian. Whoever you are, whatever your circumstance, please don't abandon your hope.  Sometimes it seems like doctors only make money from your misery and government policies and regulations are designed only to keep good people from having children to love.  Don't allow yourself bitterness and resentment. There are people who care and want to help. You may contact me through this website. Wishing you all the very best in your search, Lisa

Message from this surrogate mother

Please read my reasons for intending to become a surrogate in 2013. It includes my letter to you.

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