About Anita J*****
I am committed to being the most present, loving and authentic human being I know how to be and that in my role as a mom, that commitment is the hardest one to fulfill. I love being a mom, and that it is the most important part of my life, and the one that fills me up with the most love, joy, purpose and happiness. Most of the time I am fun-loving, playful, creative and fully engaged. To be honest, it’s taught me some of my less-pleasant traits – like having high expectations and that it’s a constant learning process. I am grateful every day for every moment that I get to be a mom and that my children are loved beyond words. And that the fabric of my life is so much richer, vibrant and alive because of it.
Why Anita J***** is here
I am a mother of 2 children. A Girl of nine years and a boy of 20 months. Being able to help another couple who is unable to have a child. Idon’t think it’s fair that there are people having children when they can’t care for them in any way. I have the ability to bear children and wish to share it with someone who can care for a child in every which way. A child is a precious gift and I would greatly appreciate being able to put one in someone’s arms to love.
Personal letter
Now that we are officially in the matching process, I decided that I should write a letter to our intended parents IPs just as a starting point for my side of our relationship. They may or may not ever read it, but in case they ever do, “Hey guys! Here’s what I felt about you before I knew you were you!” Hello IPs! We haven’t met, but we’re looking for each other already. We’re about to embark on a great adventure that will knit our lives together intimately, at least for a time, and we don’t even know each other’s names! To me, you are Intended Parents, or IPs. To you, I am a Gestational Surrogate, Gestational Carrier or simply the Surrogate. What a strange way to begin such a relationship! Though I don’t yet know you, I am pretty sure that having to have me around wasn’t an original part of your family plans. I imagine your hopes and dreams have had to change and evolve much to lead you to this point. For that, I want you to know, that I think you’re incredibly courageous people and I admire your strength and resolve. I also want you to know that I understand what incredible trust you are placing in me and I do not take at lightly. Please be assured that I did not undertake this idea on a whim. It has come with the passage of time, the gathering of information, much discussion and even more prayer. While there has been a lot of focus on me throughout the process my health, my thoughts, my fears, my family’s role, etc I want you to know that we have never once lost track of you. You are why I am here! Without you, I wouldn’t be going on this journey. Thank you for giving me this gift of an incredible opportunity. I know you’ll probably wonder and worry a lot about me. How can you know if I am eating right, sleeping enough, being active but not too active? How can you be sure I am taking my prenatal vitamins, that I’m avoiding too much coffee, or that I won’t be exposed to something I shouldn’t be? Can you be sure that on delivery day, we’ll all be on the same page medically? Can you rest assured that I will carry your child with as much care as my own? How will you know that I will be as communicative as you’d want? The answer to all those questions is you can’t know and you can’t be sure, you just have to trust me. I will do the same for you. I will trust that you’ll understand my needs and my judgment, just as I will do for you. At the end of this adventure, I hope we can look back on the time where you were just IPs and I was just the surrogate and laugh because it seems so silly to have not always known and cared for one another. Here’s to our journey! Lets go on an adventure!
